Getting Better at Getting People Better: Creating Successful Therapeutic Relationships by Noah Karrasch

Author:Noah Karrasch [Karrasch, Noah]
Language: eng
Format: epub, pdf
ISBN: 9781848192393
Amazon: 1848192398
Publisher: Singing Dragon
Published: 2014-10-20T21:00:00+00:00

CHAPTER 8

SURVIVAL

SAFETY IN ALL ITS FORMS

One way out of, or better, through the power complex is to allow spiritual power to move through you, not stay glued to your ego, where your own needs get in the way.

Thomas Moore1

I challenge us all to be able to meet clients in any of their centers, from any of ours, for the good of their process and their resolution.

Noah Karrasch

This chapter introduces my model of energetic flow in and through head, heart, gut and groin, and considers the physical and emotional health of each center. I believe most of us operate from one or perhaps two of these four major centers, and conversely often shut down in one or more areas, either psychologically or physically, or both. I think we often shut down emotionally first, leading to physical problems later. I also realize a physical trauma can lead to an emotional or psychological pain. (Is this pain psychosomatic, or somatopsychic?) I think and feel this has important implications for the way we both give and receive healing.

Remember I stated in the prologue: I’m not a scientist. I do, however, observe that which is around me, and these next chapters are based on my observations. I find these relationships I discuss in the following chapters are often valid, and I invite us all to look at our own current model to see if these ideas give us new thoughts. This chapter begins the discussion; it doesn’t define it!

Stop for a moment to consider two or three people you know with whom being in relationship is difficult. Perhaps you feel in a “one-up” situation, stuck in non-winnable competition with a family member, friend, coworker or boss. Perhaps you’re irritated by the “flirty” or “loose” nature some other person in your life seems to send your way, consciously or not. Perhaps you have a needy person in your life who demands constant reassurance. Perhaps your “other” has a different, but equally irritating habit or behavior that makes you want to get away from him or her, even though you know you “should be a better person than that.”

Let’s ask this model to give us clues as to where this other person’s stuck or overactive energy resides. The “one-up” person may live in the head, while the flirt probably lives in or from the groin. The needy person may be blocked in gut or heart. Can we observe this partner’s unbalanced spots in relation to our own weak, over- or underactive spots? Can we think and feel through how to internally validate and accept self and other without getting activated by their behaviors? Can we learn how to internally validate this self-toward-other as well as this other-through-self? Can we be fulfilled enough to want to see others fulfilled in the same measure as we’d like to be in our own core? Can we transfer this talent, this ability to perceive where our patrons’ “stuckness” resides, so we can more effectively help them resolve this stuck energy?

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